Off To Inverurie with Alan and Margaret


Just warming the crowd up!

It was a beautiful sunny summers day as I headed north to Inverurie, to the amazing Logie Country House. Margaret and Alan had, quite righty, decided that the ceremony should be outside but it was a bit breezy to say the least which was bit of a challenge to the people doing readings and my throat took a bit of a hammering even though I’ve been trained to project (didn’t warm up enough!).

Their story was so romantic because they met during Freshers’ Week at University when Margaret was booked to sing in a concert on the University radio which Alan ran. The two of them struck me as being quite shy so, after that, they both claim that the other stalked them until they agreed to go out. Their relationship was established around a shared love of Gary Tank Commander and live music and you really don’t need to know much more than that. As Alan told me ““We’ve basically spent the following 9 years going to see bands and watching movies together”

The music for the ceremony was of course all live with their musician friends battling the wind to give us some Joni Mitchell and and Carole King – what more can you ask for? Their readings were also really interesting and for the very first time we had a triplicate of readings when, to end the ceremony, each of Margaret’s bridesmaids shared a reading they had chosen. From them I share “When You Go” by Edwin Morgan. It’s a poem that stirs up all sorts of emotions, starts dark and ends like a ray of light shining through the clouds:

When you go,
if you go,
And I should want to die,
there’s nothing I’d be saved by
more than the time
you fell asleep in my arms
in a trust so gentle
I let the darkening room
drink up the evening, till
rest, or the new rain
lightly roused you awake.
I asked if you heard the rain in your dream
and half dreaming still you only said, I love you.

To Inverurie with Hayley and Ben


What a day, what a crowd! So, it was to the north, to Aberdeenshire, to the fabulous Logie Country House Hotel. It has been many years since I have conducted a wedding here and it was way outside my “usual range” before I moved to Highland Perthshire. But even from there it is a fair distance and therefore a great excuse for a weekend away.

When I arrived the family were all there, congregating in the kitchen from what I could work out. Logie is one of these venues where you hire the whole place and basically have a huge house party with a wedding in the middle. The ceremony itself is held in what would have been the stables, a very large space so they must have had loads of horses at some point. As I walked into the room for the ceremony I realised that is was going to be a big wedding, well over a hundred people from my estimate and already the kids were running about, in and out of the chairs. Everyone was up for a good time and, to be honest, the ceremony was a bit of a riot. A nice riot.

We began with a new reading to me from Sex and The City read by Natalie:

His hello was the end of her endings
Her laugh was their first step down the aisle
His hand would be hers to hold forever
His forever was as simple as her smile

He said she was what was missing
She said instantly she knew
She was a question to be answered
And his answer was ‘I do’.”

Their story was one of those “it was always meant to be” stories from Ben declaring his undying love for Hayley at the Christmas party when he hadn’t even asked her out (needless to say drink had been taken) to his wonderful, completely unexpected proposal in Monterey in California when Hayley’s reply was to laugh hysterically for thirty seconds – not exactly the response he was looking for. That proposal took place precisely two years before this, their big day. And talking about unexpected, we all met their “massive baby” Sonny, the star of the show really.

They wrote and shared their promises to each other and there wasn’t a dry eye in the room. We shared a Quaich and filled it with gin and tonic of course, stood to applaud their exit and the party began.

The two of them were good enough to drop me a note afterwards:

“The ceremony is the most important part of your day so trying to make it feel special and truly your own can be daunting. Brian was amazing from start to finish! Creating a ceremony that was unique and personal to us felt easy with his guidance and expertise. He really is a seasoned professional! I loved how Brian made an effort to involve our guests in the ceremony and so many commented on how memorable it was. If you are looking for a humanist that will give you a relaxed, fun, joyful and laughter filled ceremony that still feels unbelievably special then Brian is your man.
Thanks again Brian, you really did make our day.”